God, Sal, that is so hard. Just one’s enough to rock a person, but when they keep coming? It’s fresh hell, moment to moment. The shock doesn’t get time to settle before the next wave hits.
I’m truly glad you’re writing and connecting. And I hope you know you’ve got somebody else rooting for you in every way.
Thank you. And seriously… so very sorry for your loss too. I’ll tell you honestly, on all of those days, time seems to stop for a wink for me. I’ve learned to let it. I give the space for remembrance that is unique to those particular days.
I made a pact with myself last year. I would celebrate and remember him too. Do things we would have done together and imagine what he would say. I still cry sometimes, but it’s more healing now. A release. It’s helped a lot. 💜
This was a head-kick. I have to turn off my phone and go digest for a bit. Sorry to the rest of substack that I was going to read and support this afternoon (jk). This was really good, pretty much confirmation of my worst fears, and I hope that in some way writing it, having us read it, helps. Good luck. I’ll be back for more.
Ernie, thank you. That means a lot. I know how much you bring to the page, so this kind of reflection carries weight. I hoped it might resonate but didn’t quite expect it to land like this. Truly grateful you made space for my words today.
Yes. To all of this. I lost three relatives to whom I was close to in 2023. Less than 9 months…gone. I remember walking into a party and the silence that followed me after my one grandfather passed. Hug me, talk with me about him, but don’t make feel your pity.
I wish I could hug you.
Thank you for writing and sharing in the heartfelt and honest way you do 🧡
How did I get so lucky?
Writing is my love. But connecting with genuinely beautiful souls? That’s much rarer than it should be. I feel truly blessed.
I have been experiencing a pile up of deaths faster than bodies in a John Wyck movie. Thank you for this.
God, Sal, that is so hard. Just one’s enough to rock a person, but when they keep coming? It’s fresh hell, moment to moment. The shock doesn’t get time to settle before the next wave hits.
I’m truly glad you’re writing and connecting. And I hope you know you’ve got somebody else rooting for you in every way.
This is such a beautiful, vulnerable and heartfelt piece 🙏 your truth reached me deeply, and this is such an important message too.
“What that person really needs more than anything else is to be seen, truly seen, even in a flawed state of mourning…
And still… to be accepted.” This is everything 🙏thank you for sharing
Allegra, thank you so much. This really touched me.
That line you echoed... is the heart of it, honestly. It means a lot that it landed with you.
I appreciate you taking the time to sit with it and reflect it back so thoughtfully.
It’s connection like this that reminds me why I keep writing through the hard stuff. 💜
I'm so sorry about your father, on your birthday.
Mine died this last Feb 13th, he spared me Valentines day.
My heart goes out to you.
Thank you. And seriously… so very sorry for your loss too. I’ll tell you honestly, on all of those days, time seems to stop for a wink for me. I’ve learned to let it. I give the space for remembrance that is unique to those particular days.
I made a pact with myself last year. I would celebrate and remember him too. Do things we would have done together and imagine what he would say. I still cry sometimes, but it’s more healing now. A release. It’s helped a lot. 💜
This was a head-kick. I have to turn off my phone and go digest for a bit. Sorry to the rest of substack that I was going to read and support this afternoon (jk). This was really good, pretty much confirmation of my worst fears, and I hope that in some way writing it, having us read it, helps. Good luck. I’ll be back for more.
Ernie, thank you. That means a lot. I know how much you bring to the page, so this kind of reflection carries weight. I hoped it might resonate but didn’t quite expect it to land like this. Truly grateful you made space for my words today.
Yes. To all of this. I lost three relatives to whom I was close to in 2023. Less than 9 months…gone. I remember walking into a party and the silence that followed me after my one grandfather passed. Hug me, talk with me about him, but don’t make feel your pity.
Thank you for sharing. 🦋💚
Wow, thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m so sorry for your losses. It’s a lot to carry in such a short time. I definitely see you. 🤗
It’s wild how untamed my butterflies get when I post something that cuts this deep. Your openness and acceptance here mean more than I can say.💜